11 Self Defense Lessons Learned
It might be a lose-lose situation to be in a confrontation anywhere, but following these steps can help you control the situation. Break contact, get away, and get to safety with 11 tips that you can use to get the upper hand!
- Prepare Mentally – know the rules, there are no rules, you make the rules.
- Imagine situations in which you need to defend yourself. Where is it? Who is there? Is it safe? Why were you there? How did it happen? Are you the victim? Was it a fair fight? Did you survive?
- Be self-aware – are you ready to see yourself as the victim and to know and test your limits? Can you navigate? What do you see? What do you feel?
- Exercise – what are things you can and cannot do that will make you less of a target or victim? What are things you can and cannot do that would change the perception of others of you? What makes you a bad choice for a perp to make you a victim? Why?
- Situational awareness – Are you alone? Where are you? Do you see your path? What’s at your disposal and is there help nearby? Notice eye contact and body language- the smallest details can save your life.
- Ask yourself how do I travel smarter?
- Do you pick the most strategic path? What did you learn about your navigational style and skills? What makes you feel safe? What does a tool need to provide to give you that sense of empowerment or confidence needed?
- “To engage or not to engage,” is the question – both are intentional decisions made that require all the information gathered and the information continuing to be gathered.
- The toolbox – this is what everyone wants, but the truth is it must be practiced and made second nature.
- The toolbox should be filled with intangible things like actions to take prior to engagement, the language, and things you say before during, and after.
- The aftermath – If you engage you have to think about the aftermath, which should also be a good tool in the toolbox. How will you feel about hurting another person, how will you feel if you severely injured another person, will you still help them if you’re their only chance for survival after? Will you be able to tell their family? What if it’s on camera?
- Self-defense can’t afford to be cute. It is dangerous, and the aggression is often isn’t considered real. Some inspirational words: just because you are being genuinely responsible for your own self-being doesn’t mean you’re a monster.
- Use your voice! And use declarative authoritative commands that draw attention.
- Take a very deep breath.
- Then command: Don’t touch me, Don’t get any closer, Stay Back, Get back, Back off, Get off, Get away, I don’t know you.
- Recruit help if there’s an audience.
- Don’t waste any more time.